Yeah, I am about to dive into the cleansing water of truth.
Why am I picking now to reveal all? That is a great question with a fantastic, multifaceted answer. It is a new year, and I don’t like keeping secrets. Right now, a lot of people are checking their reflection in the mirror and finding the reflection lacking, a failure, and some extreme cases find themselves hating the person reflected. Many are grappling with what to do. How to tackle the problem of getting healthy, looking better, and hopefully finding a lifestyle that will set them free from self loathing. Then, there is myself. The secrets I have kept, and, then, that I have anguished over sharing my opinion about “DIETS,” which has to do with my secrets. I am sure to offend almost everyone before I finish. Still, I think it is time for me to speak out.
***Please understand before we go further*** I am not ANTI anyone, thing, or idea other than Shaming and Guilting people. I am NOT setting out to offend–Sadly, I just understand it will probably happen.
I really like people and generally do not enjoy separating myself from support, so why put myself in that position? I have, from the beginning of my starting this blog, wanted to create a place where all people wanting to get fit could feel safe following the path that worked for them–not my diet du-jour. I was pretty open and honest about my diet and plans up until fall of last year. I had started making all these friends who preach, “No diet, no pills, no anything but real food and exercise,” which tended to make me feel ashamed of my work with OptiFast as well as some of my other not-so-well known weight loss attempts. They called my efforts a quick fix–honestly these same folks call anything but the plan that works for them a quick fix most of the time–not all of them.
- Why do I hang out with them if they made me feel ashamed of my efforts that caused me to lose 107 pounds?
- Why did I let their narrow focus cause me to lose sight of what I did that got me where I was?
The fact of the matter is that these people are generally delightful and positive connections. They normally give out amazingly good advice, and are very concerned about the information that they share with their fans. These kind-generous souls are sharing what has worked for them. In general, their information is sound and good. I never isolate myself with only those that agree with my way of thinking, because that is a sure way to miss out on fantastic information that could change my life. Honestly, I grew up with a grumpy fault finding father (that sounds like a negative, but it isn’t) who would poke every imaginable hole in my ideas. I learned that if I could stand after he finished with his slaughter session and still wish to pursue my plan that it was going to be worth the effort. So, simply, I like having my ideas challenged by others’ opinions. That’s why.
Still, I do not like sharing MY dissenting thoughts with others. I have found that often times other people do not share my love of examination. Especially when it comes to their own thoughts and ideas. They get angry with me. I know I should be used to it by now, but I am human and enjoy affection as much as the next person. I know there will be those who will love me still for my honesty and for those of you who will stand by me anyway … God knows I love your hearts best! There will be those who just can’t see my heart, but only my words and will not be able to see anything positive in my expression of my thoughts, and feelings. I wish it were not so, but we just don’t get to have it all do we?
This will take at least a week, sorry, but there is just too much to share in a mere post or two.
Now, that the prologue is done, tomorrow will begin with my first big confession. OUCH!
I am not NOW, nor will I ever endorse any particular diet or exercise plan. I will share with you what I have done–nothing more. I believe that each of you is an individual and that all diets and exercises plans should be made case specific/personal. I never attempted any diet I have EVER tried without the supervision of a qualified physician (most were qualified). I recommend that you do as I did and take your plans to YOUR doctor and have yourself medically monitored. ***